Confidence is the most beautiful thing a girl can wear.
For some of us, being confident comes naturally. For others, it is something we have to constantly work at. (Thats meeeeeee)! I used to be extremely insecure. And by extremely, I mean extremely. It was bad. I was always critiquing the way I looked, never believed in myself, thought I wasn't good enough, was always comparing myself to other girls... the list goes on. However, I have dedicated the last two years to getting to know myself, find my purpose, what I am passionate about and where I want my life to go. Let me tell ya, that was the best decision I ever made. Now at age 24, I can officially say I am the happiest and most confident I have ever been. And boy does it feel good!
Here's how to do it yourself...
- Smile: The more you smile, the happier you are. If you are always frowning and in a grumpy mood, people will not want to be around you. Instead, smile at people as you walk by. Say hello. Showing physical signs of being happy, will make you seem more approachable and confident. In most cases, those are the people who have the most friends, are well liked at their jobs, and are most successful.
- Make eye contact: When talking to someone, look them in the eye. It is a sign of respect and shows that you are confident in what you are saying or that you're being an active listener. When asking for something and your head is looking down at the ground, it is a sign of weakness. Believe in yourself, girl. You got this!
- Dress up: It is proven the better you dress, the better you feel. I know this is true for me. When I spend the day in sweats and excessive amounts of dry shampoo, I feel less motivated and am therefore, less productive. However, when I put on a killer outfit, the Miss Longfellow side of me teaches the best lessons, can manage behavior better, and has a more productive day of teaching. Dressing nicely shows that you care enough about yourself to put effort in and make yourself look respectable. Not only will it show on the outside, but you will feel it in the inside.
- Think positive: It is proven that if you think and focus on the positive, you will actually be happier.
- Other peoples opinions of you are non of your business: I used to be so concerned with what other people thought of me. To be honest, it consumed my mind and caused severe anxiety. It was to the point where I was never happy with myself; always trying to change for others. Well that didn't work
- Instead of saying 'sorry,' say 'thank you:' Instead of 'sorry I am late,' say 'thank you for waiting for me.' Instead of 'sorry this is such a long story,' say, 'thank you for listening to me.' Those are some examples of how to turn the negative into a positive. It will make you feel better about yourself and let the other person know that they are appreciated.
- Take care of your body (physically and mentally): This is a big one. If you are not right with yourself, don't expect yourself to function correctly. Do some sort of physical activity every day, even if it's just 10 minutes. Go for a walk, run, sit ups while watching T.V., lift weights...ect. Also, take at least 10 minutes in the beginning or at the end of your day to have YOU time. Meditate, take a bath and do a face mask, take a long, hot shower, journal, watch a TED talk, ect...
- Give a firm handshake: Smile, make eye contact, say their name...show them the girl boss that you are.
- Stand up straight: Body language says a lot about self confidence. If you are looking down with your arms crossed you are sending a signal that you don't want to be approached. However, if you have good posture, a smile on your face, and look relaxed, you are more approachable, warm, and open to conversation.