As a teacher, I am always trying to teach my kids how to turn a negative thought into a positive one. How to go from a fixed mindset to a growth mindset. Like a lot of things, it can be easier said than done. When a student says to me, "I can't do this." Its easy for my response to be "We don't talk like that in this class... you can do it." Simply because I actually know they can. I believe in them. However, why is it that when I have a negative thought or someone says something negative to me, I let myself think it or believe it. I don't immediately try to change my mindset like I would tell my kids. That's not right. I should be holding myself to the same standard I hold them to. If I don't allow them to think that way, why should I allow myself? When someone is constantly pointing out your "flaws" or things they don't like about you, it can be easy to believe it. I have learned some tricks along the way to help combat negativity and how to fully embrace and love yourself... hope you enjoy! PS these examples are tailored to my life, so change it up to fit your career, passions, and hobbies to best work for you. Journaling is so beneficial. Make a list and look at it every now and then to remind yourself of the amazing person you are!
You're too nice- I spread kindness and will get it in return.
You're not very broad- I dedicated the last 7 years of my life to becoming the best teacher I could be. And I did it. Mission accomplished.
You're too selfish- I go out of my way to make others I care about feel happy and loved. I dedicated the majority of my days to my 3rd graders and do everything I can to be the best for them.
You're not genuine- Just because you're a nice person does not mean you're not genuine. Believe me, I have my limits and the sass comes out. I would do anything for anyone I care about.
You're too happy- I have been through hard times. Being positive and happy does not come naturally to me; I had to work to be the person I am today. And I am proud of her. I choose to talk about things I love instead of hate. I will always surround myself with people who do the same.
You're too passionate about teaching- If you're not passionate about your job, you're doing it wrong. Nobody goes into teaching for the money, let me tell you. I do it simply because I love it and thats what makes a great teacher.