5 Tips on How to be More Confident

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  • No one is YOU and that is your POWER: I used to wish that I "fit in" or was more like other girls. Whether it was girls on T.V., YouTube, or just walking down the street, I would try to change my style, look, or even personality to be more like theirs. What was I thinking? The problem was I wasn't confident in myself. Now, I have learned to embrace my strengths, weaknesses, and everything in between. Trying to be someone else never led me to happiness, but being me, is the best choice I ever made. No one has your personality, your background, your exact same passions, your experiences. That is what makes you unique; embrace it and use it to your advantage. You might not know it yet, but those things are going to help you change the world. 
  • Affirmations in the mirror: Say out loud to yourself in the mirror every morning three nice things. Look yourself in the eye and smile and yourself. It may seem silly or feel awkward at first, but trust me, the more you say it the more you will start to believe it. Examples: I am loved. I am worthy. I am enough. I am beautiful just the way I am. I am strong. 
  • Get yourself ready: It is proven that you feel better about yourself when you put some effort into getting ready for the day. Think about it, would you feel your best if you had last night's sweats on, your 4th day hair in a mess, and hadn't washed your face all day? Probably not. Get up, enjoy your coffee, pick out a killer outfit, wash your face, and fix up your hair. The more time you have, the more effort you can obviously put in. I am a makeup girl, so I like to make sure I wake up with enough time to do a full face. I promise you, you'll WANT to go out, see people and be productive because you look so dang good. 
  • Surround yourself with people who build you up: I have had friendships and relationships where all they do is tear you apart. And you guessed it, I would try to change myself for them. I am not kidding y'all, I would dress a certain way around specific friends, eat certain things (that I didn't even like), or even drink more because they would make me feel bad about it if I didn't. It led me down a dark road to bad choices, and even worse self-esteem. It's okay to be selective with who you surround yourself with; for a long time I thought I had to have 50 best friends. Truth be told, I am actually happier with fewer ahhhhhmayzing ones I have.
  • Smile: Simple, yet effective. When I was going through the depths of my depression, I did not smile. Ever. I don't think I smiled for 5 months straight. Then, one day at school a student said something that made me smile, and I actually felt awkward; It was such a foreign feeling to me. Ever since, I have made an effort to smile at least once every day. Even if I am not feeling good about myself or it was a really stressful day, I find one thing to smile about.